The Best Gift You Can Give Your Family (and 4 FREE Ways to Get it)

By Val Solomon, Busy Mom Gets Fit

This holiday season, I’d like to remind you of the absolute best gift you can give your family…

Your own happiness.

I’m seeing so many women:

• Put their goals on hold

• Put their needs last

• Take on the world with no help

• Exhausted

• Overwhelmed

What if you could show up this holiday season with a little more calmness, a little more peace, a little more joy?

Would your whole family benefit?

Peace, calm, and joy don’t cost a thing, but they do sometimes, especially in a year like we’ve had, take effort.

Here are 4 Ways to Work on Giving This FREE Gift to Your Family:

1. Ask for help.

   Us women tend to take on an extreme load. On top of work… laundry, dishes, cooking, holiday shopping, helping kids with school, worrying about money, making sure everything is perfect. What if you just asked for help? You may get pushback, but stand firm. If you are stressed from doing too much, ask for help.

2. Exercise

   1. Take a walk, go for a run, do a quick workout. You’ll feel better, I promise.

3. Practice gratitude.

   1. We can’t make ourselves instantly happy. We can’t make ourselves instantly more joyful. But practicing gratitude can help. When you take a moment to focus your attention on the things you are grateful for instead of the negativity in your life, joy starts to creep in.

4. Join my FREE 5 Days of Good Stuff starting Nov. 30, 2020.

   Each day you’ll get:

   • a mindset lesson

   • A quick 20 min fat burning workout

   • Fun giveaways

   • Nutrition help

   • Option to join live strength training workouts and test out online training with me.

A calmer, more mindful and even happier you could be just a few moments away.

Will you make giving this gift a priority?

Let’s leave the stress and overwhelm of this season and this year behind and give the best gift you can give… a happy you.

4 Steps to Grow Your Number 1 Muscle: Mindset Muscle

By Valerie Solomon, Busy Mom Gets Fit

"... a mindset is a set of assumptions, methods, or notations held by one or more people or groups of people. A mindset can also be seen as incident of a person's world view or philosophy of life." -- Wikipedia

Mindset is the number one thing deciding your success in…

A fitness program

A business venture

Relationships

Your level of happiness

Your level of peace

It’s one of the reasons I love working with women to develop confidence and a new mindset through fitness. A mindset shift affects every area of our lives. 

I know that if I can help you grow your mindset muscle, the actual muscles (or goals that you have) will come along.

We all have stories we tell ourselves.

“I’m not strong.”

“I can’t do that.”

“I am not athletic.”

“I am too old, too far gone, too whatever.”

“My body will never….”

“My genetics….”

“I never stick to anything.”

“I quit.”

“I don’t have time.”

All of these thoughts are just stories you are telling yourself that do not serve you. Someone with a busier life than you is doing it. Someone with the same genetics as you is doing it. Someone in your situation has figured it out, and you can too if you are willing to do the mindset work.

Are you willing to grow? Are you willing to take a hard look at your internal dialogue?

To grow your mindset, you have to start self coaching yourself. Consider this:

C - circumstance

T - thoughts

F - feelings

A - actions

R - results

A circumstance you cannot change happened and led you to -> these thoughts that are -> causing you certain feelings which lead to -> you taking or not taking actions -> leading to your current results.

How do we shift?

You cannot change the circumstance, but you can change your THOUGHTS about the circumstance -> which will cause a ripple effect.

Possible Example:  

Circumstance: Someone made fun of me as a kid about my athletic ability 

Thoughts: I think I am not athletic

Feelings: I feel embarrassed to try

Actions: I don’t exercise

Results: I am feeling unhealthy, sluggish, out of shape

Now shift the THOUGHT:

Circumstance: Someone made fun of me as a kid about my athletic ability 

Thoughts: Kids are silly. God gave me a capable body that can do whatever I train it to do

Feelings: I feel like trying

Actions: I exercise

Results: I reach my health and wellness goals

4 Steps to Growing Your Mindset Muscle

1. Recognize the stories you are telling yourself that are keeping you from your goal. 

2. What circumstance did these stories originate from? Did something happen along the way to make you think this way?

3. What thoughts -> results have developed because of that circumstance?

4. Reframe your thoughts about the circumstance.

Check out my free resources for more mindset work.